That’s how I’m feeling right now. I’ve read a number of responses to Rachel Held Evan’s CNN essay describing the reasons Millennials are leaving the church. Like Rachel, i’m firmly in the Gen X demographic (and closer in age to the Boomers than the Millennials), but my frustrations and experiences echo theirs.
I’ll admit that a whole spectrum of blogs have written about her concerns, and many of them have supported Rachel’s message. But in the circles I travel the bulk of the links I’ve seen have been among the most toxic, and reading them made me as angry as the day a woman was dragged out of a Texas Senate hearing for daring to voice her disapproval of the state’s latest salvo in the war against women.
I expected conservatives to launch a passionate defense of the status quo, and to be honest, none of their talking points surprised me. But I did expect at least a sliver of concession that the church was accountable for its declining relevance, even if I disagreed with their solutions. Instead the tactic has been to attack Rachel herself and insist that Millennials are the problem.
Since Trevin Wax at The Gospel Coalition gave a concise representation of the evangelical establishment’s defense, I’ll focus on his post. For those who might want a concise summary, my response is that:
A) Instead of assuming that Millenials are shallow, self-centered narcissists, they should consider the possibility that Millennials are sincere about their concerns.
B) Ultimately it seems as though the evangelical response is to say “good riddance” to anyone who might have concerns about the state of the church that can’t be addressed with a sermon series or an updated selection of worship songs.
Now here are my specific counterpoints to Trevin Wax’s arguments. I’ve put his statements in bold, and any quotes from Rachel in italics. First, let’s looks at his response to Rachel’s argument that the church has become “… too political, too exclusive, old-fashioned, unconcerned with social justice and hostile to lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people:”
“She’s right to decry a vision of Christianity that reduces repentance to a list of do’s and don’ts.”
Note that this has nothing to do with Rachel’s statement. It’s a complete dodge. A church can get caught up in do’s and don’ts without engaging in political activism. Do’s and don’ts are a trap that any church can fall victim to.
What Rachel is talking about is the conscious prioritizing of political victories over spiritual victories. A classic example is AL Mohler’s statement that Obama’s victory in the 2012 election was an evangelical disaster. For his ilk, the voting booth is the true gauge of the church’s mission. And he represents the mentality of a large percentage of the modern church.
“I couldn’t agree more when she says “we want churches that emphasize an allegiance to the kingdom of God over an allegiance to a single political party or a single nation.”
Okay, great. He agrees that God should be our priority. But he’s not willing to look at the evidence that God is not the evangelical establishment’s priority. (A simple test is to ask an evangelical whether they would rather a constitutional ban on gay marriage or one more soul coming to Christ. At best they will try to say “both.” But if you try to pin them down on a choice, they’ll squirm.)
Consciously or not, every evangelical church I have attended equates God’s Kingdom with American political interests. It’s funny how they’ll bemoan the state of the nation until you suggest that perhaps other nations should be granted the same level of respect. A church that truly rejects equating the Kingdom with an allegiance to a single nation wouldn’t spend the 4th Of July singing patriotic anthems instead of worship songs.
Here’s where Rachel and I part ways – on what communities following Jesus look like in our culture.
I invite you to read Wax’s response here because it’s not conducive to quotations, but again we have a dodge. The community Wax insists Christians should seek is no different than what Rachel is asking for. All of Wax’s characteristics of a positive Christian community are desirable, but the underlying implication of them is that he believes that Millennials aren’t interested in life-altering repentance and faith, and they aren’t interested in a Jesus who explodes our understanding of sin, repentance, forgiveness, etc.
In other words, he’s saying that the church is right where it should be. It’s got everything down pat and its priorities in order. But Millennials, with their supposed hunger for superficial faith and a Jesus who doesn’t change their lives one iota, need to get their priorities straight and get in line with the church.
“I visit lots of churches, and I find that sexuality is not a frequently discussed subject from most church platforms or Bible studies. In fact, one could make the case that Christians haven’t talked enough about Jesus’ radical zealousness when it comes to sexuality.”
This was Wax’s response to Rachel’s contention that the modern church is too obsessed with sex. I’ve seen variations of this defense many times, and it’s a Wizard Of Oz mentality. Somehow evangelicals have convinced themselves that people can’t see behind the curtain and track the words and priorities they exhibit outside of Sunday mornings. The Gospel Coalition itself publishes an essay on sexual mores at least once a week, and it felt the need to publish not just one but dozens of screeds against homosexuality and gay marriage during the past year, each stating the same case with the same arguments. If they aren’t obsessed, why the need to make the case against homosexuality so many times?
I’ll concede that some churches don’t discuss sexuality from the pulpit. But they do hammer the purity and complementation line during Bible Studies and outside the sanctuary. If you don’t hear about it on Sunday mornings, it’s because the vast majority of church members are married couples, therefore they’ve moved beyond the need to hear purity sermons. But gender role sermons almost always make an appearance, as do sermons about porn addiction.
“When it comes to sexual obsession, we ought to take a look at pop culture.”
Ah, but here’s where we get to the do’s and don’t mentality that Wax said he discourages. Pop culture conversations are almost always reduced to advice on which programs to avoid and whether a given musician is Christian enough. And since these conversations are led by people who haven’t actually read or seen the media they’re criticizing, the discussion is almost always rooted in ignorance.
“Rachel says millennials want to be “challenged to holiness,” but the challenge she appears to be advocating is one on our own terms and according to our own preferences….Truth be told, I don’t want a church that serves my preferences. I want a church that gives me Jesus and makes me want to serve His.”
Sorry, but everyone seeks out a church according to their own preferences. Years ago I read that the two biggest factors that determined which church a Christian attended were the quality and style of the music and the time of day the worship service was scheduled, Child services were the third biggest factor. Even for evangelicals, doctrine and preaching were less important.Most Christians don’t have the luxury of growing up in a church they love and never leave, so as they move around the country, they shop for churches. I can guarantee you that Wax did the same, and I bet he insisted on a finding a church that fit his standards of a Godly community. The fact that he found what he’s looking for doesn’t mean that the Millennial’s search is any less genuine.
“Christianity without a cost is Christianity without the cross. And Christianity without the cross isn’t Christianity at all.”
I agree. But again we see Wax unwilling to admit the church has hemorrhaged members for a good reason. As many people have pointed out, The Gospel Coalition itself is guilty of one of the most revolting defenses of the leaders implicated in the Sovereign Grace child molestation scandal, going so far as to blame the victims and accuse them of ulterior motives. Somehow churches believe that they can compartmentalize these issues without people noticing, They think that they can preach the gospel without people noticing that on the side they’re spouting racist sentiments and engaging in blatant misogyny. They think it’s enough to pay lip service to those who’ve been wounded and abused by the church, and they don’t think that people will notice them defending the individuals and practices that have caused abuse in the first place.
But the bottom line is that Wax feels that the church has the luxury of dictating the terms of debate. And notice that people who write these anti-Millennial retorts are always people who have never experienced being an outsider in their own church. They’re always white, usually male, with beliefs that fall perfectly in line with the evangelical status quo. Their politics are sufficiently right wing, so they’re on board with the church’s political agenda. They support all of the candidates and causes their fellow congregation members support. If they have any issues with their church’s teachings, it’s always a question of whether their church is conservative enough.
So the bottom line is that at no point has Wax admitted any fault on the church’s part. No shortcomings, no misplaced priorities, no hypocrisy, no false teachings. If Millennials aren’t happy, then it’s their fault. So we’re left with a choice: get in line or get the hell out, because you’re only welcome to the degree that you’re willing to suck it in and keep quiet about your concerns. An attitude like that is a Christianity without a cross, and I think that churches who share Wax’s sentiments should be honest and replace their crosses with middle fingers. Because that’s the message they’re giving to Millennials.